It has taken me several weeks to write this post due to the sensitivity of the update. I actually have not even informed most of our family members. I’ve been holding back, waiting to for my heart to heal a bit before I said anything, because I knew that if anyone said something insensitive it would just break me… well, my heart hasn’t healed at all yet, but I feel a responsibility to inform all those who are supporting us in so many ways. The little girl that we were planning to adopt is now being adopted by another family. We did not get a waiver we needed from China fast enough, and another family began the process ahead of us. It was shocking and heartbreaking to us. We are focusing on being happy that she is going to have a family. I promised myself that I would be happy for her if this were to happen, and I am, but I am sad for us. I’m not sure what to do to heal my heart. I’ve done a lot of praying. We have wanted to adopt for a very long time and this is not deterring us from a Special Needs China adoption. We are continuing on with our fundraising efforts and moving forward with faith.
A few years ago I wrote here about my love for adoption. Our family has been waiting to adopt for a very long time. We haven’t been waiting to be chosen, we have been waiting until the time felt right. I am so excited to announce that we are now beginning our adoption journey! If you are interested in our story, please visit our fundraising site. We would love any help you can give us, and prayers and sending love are the best thing you could offer. If you feel inspired, please share our fundraiser with others. I will be sharing more details about our journey and about “Lilly” as events transpire.
I’ve wanted to adopt since I was 14 years old. I think I always knew I wanted bio children as well as adopted children. When my husband and I met we knew we were intended to be the parents of 6. I already had a daughter from a previous marriage, who was 2 ½ at the time. My husband adopted her at the age of 4. We felt that we would have 3 birth children and adopt the other 3. My husband is half Chinese and as we’ve looked mainly at children from China and Hong Kong we’ve joked that the first 3 are mine and the next 3 are his : ) We are interested only in special needs children, which was the draw to Hong Kong (which only adopts out special needs children), but China now has a special needs program as well.
My husband would like a hearing impaired child (he is very fluent in sign language and has a heart for the deaf community having worked as a volunteer interpreter for several years). I’m okay with that, but my heart is with HIV+ children. Any child over the age of 3 or with a sibling group is automatically considered special needs and we are very open to either. Twins would be great even! We are also looking at Ethiopia and I’ve taken a few glances at Haiti, but I’m not sure they’re open at the moment. Not that it matters because my husband is still in school and we’ve been told we cannot adopt because of our income, which is low and mostly in the form of school loans. He’s got 6 months of school left before graduation, so I’m hoping we can get our income up quickly and begin the adoption process as soon as possible after that.
I remember when I lived in Arizona 12 years ago, I worked with a woman who told me she wanted to adopt children of many different nationalities and have a “rainbow family.” That image made me smile as much then as it does now and I’ve held it close to my heart all these years. I, too, would love a rainbow family!
Never stop dreaming. Never stop listening to your heart. It holds the map to your destiny!